Over the past week so much has happened that I have found myself on the struggle bus trying to find a way to condense the issues into a post that doesn't veer off onto to many bunny trails about the issues facing everyone in their lives.
We are all looking for ways to better our lives and the lives of our children but the re-occuring theme is how do we do that and get off this merry-go-round that we have allowed ourselves to be sucked into. How do we make a difference? How do we get it all done?
Simply put we have to prioritize! We can have it all in this great country just not at the same time like we've led ourselves to believe. Something suffers, doing it all at the same time is impossible. Often times life happens and we find ourselves single mothers and fathers or we lose a job and are forced to downsize or regroup on a different path. We are faced with all kinds of other dilemas life hands us too, maybe it's your own health scare or a sick child. But stopping and pondering on it seems like the least logical option for many, they just act or exist continuing to do what everyone else does without considering all the options. This is so dangerous and results in so many unintended consequences and problems.
I hear people all the time talk about the fact that they don't have enough time to pay attention or get involved with issues facing their communities. They say they are to busy, they work 40 hours a week, run their kids to sporting events and try to catch a meal and do a load of laundry in between. We are all busy! The mind set is such that their kids might miss out if they don't do all these things. Really? I wonder if they've considered how much their kids have missed out on in life by being at the ball field 15 hours a week instead of riding their bikes along the bike path with you or their friends, conversing about life or growing a garden in the backyard, preparing a meal from the garden's bounty or roasting marshmallows over a campfire.
I know what it's like to raise kids and have to make the tough choices, my husband and I are still raising our boys and running a business! We have learned though through it all that we have to find a balance and make the hard choices that are best for the long term. I'm not anti-sports and I know many enjoy that activity but is it the most beneficial thing we can do with our time? That's the choice we all have to make for ourselves. Evaluate and re-evaluate from time to time and decide in our ever changing world what are the long term benefits to how we are spending our invaluable time and make a choice to spend it in ways that have a better return. It's not the end of the world if your children sit out a sport season. They may not get invited to a birthday party or a play date but possibly they will discover something new or read a great book instead. Little Britches, a classic series by Ralph Moody is a family favorite of ours. You may also find time to enjoy some family dinners together and discover some new activities you haven't had time for. We had the opportunity to visit a great guy last Friday who is growing his own vegetables in a greenhouse 9 months out of the year. He is working on developing a plan to teach others how to do it also. He is an intelligent, critically thinking guy enthusiastic about his project and vision for the future. It was inspiring and contagious! You can check out his operation on his Facebook page at High Plains Grower, Bob Jordan, or give him a call. Summed up best from my Be Inspired Calendar; Happiness is not a station to arrive at, but a manner of traveling. - Margaret Lee Runbeck.